"How to solve current problems", "How to realize the value of life", and "How to be happy", "Negative emotions caused by confusion and disappointment in the future", "Negative emotions caused by poor relationship between superiors and subordinates in the workplace", "The surrounding Negative emotions from relationships”, “Negative emotions from jealousy, resentment, blame”, “Negative emotions from self-inexplicable reasons”

The source of all this confusion is our ignorance of ourselves. Awareness of one's own consciousness is a unique human endowment. Self-awareness comes from the mind, and only when people use this ability can they be at the level of human beings, the level of initiative and freedom - and the meaning of life is here.

In the face of these emotions, our common wrong way of responding, the first wrong thinking: terrorization. It is manifested in thinking about things very seriously, always putting what should happen, what to do, and worrying in the first consideration.

The second wrong thinking: should be changed. It would be better if I didn't do that, take regret medicine, I should do that or that would be better. Thoughts ruminate, make yourself feel guilty, and feel more lost.

The third wrong thinking: rationalization. It is manifested in pretending to be old-fashioned, doing whatever it takes, holding an indifferent attitude towards external things, and learned helplessness.

The wrong life creed under the wrong thinking mode:
"①I care too much about what others think of you, how will others think of me if I do this"
"②Can't stand to fail on important issues and face the setbacks in life".
"③People and things should develop in the direction I want"
"④If something goes wrong, someone must have a problem"
" ⑤ I always hold deep anxiety about what is about to happen"
"⑥Everything has a perfect solution, and I have to find these methods immediately"
"⑦ In the face of many difficulties and responsibilities, you can keep yourself out of it and feel at ease"
" ⑧ I will always be happy if I keep a detached attention to many things."
" ⑨ The past or when I was a child caused me to be the way I am now, no matter how hard I try, it can't be changed"
"⑩ These bad people and bad things shouldn't exist, I don't know what to do"

90% of the judgments in our life are your mentality that quietly helps you make decisions. Life is like a ship, and mentality is like an invisible and intangible rudder, which is unconsciously controlling the direction of our life, shaping all aspects of our life and work. Only by truly understanding your own state of mind can you better navigate the voyage of life.

How can I change my mentality and make my work and life happy?

Acceptance and realization therapy acceptance and commitment therapy, referred to as ACT therapy. First: accept. noodle
I am willing to accept the possibility that any event or person in my life will come and go, but the strategy of escaping will never work.

Second: Commitment. I sympathize with my painful struggles, and my pattern is: promise to break promise, promise again. The life I choose is indeed the life I have thought about, not the life my emotions want.

Third: Action. Action is preceded by defining goals and acting to achieve them. The goal is this: We choose not to have pain, but to have a worthwhile, meaningful life.

Of course, change is not easy, and some ideas, concepts, and cognitions have been running in our brains for many years.

Change is painful, and we struggle with our limitations, vulnerabilities, fears, and the unknown. Change may be hard, but no one ever said it wasn't worth it. We are pursuing our own future!

But everyone should have a life-long learning and growth mindset, make a little breakthrough every day, make a little progress every day, and life will become better.